The disjointed language of webcam chat rooms can be difficult to decipher at times. Acronyms for sex act preferences exist in all genres of internet porn but are most varied in the Fetish area, which is where I dwell exclusively. Even as a seasoned Domina/kinkster from waaay back, I had to declare WTF more than a few times to the abbreviations flung about.
Beginning with the basics: BDSM is an ages old acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism. There are an assortment of distinct preferences which are sought after on their own as well. I’ve compiled an introductory list of some of the most common requests I have come across as acronyms in the Bondage section of a popular cam girl site.
Let’s start with one of my favorites…
Small Penis Humiliation
Viewers requesting SPH want you to berate and humiliate them for their lack of manhood without holding back!
Even if they are of average proportion, be certain to make sure they realize just how small and insignificant their sorry excuse for a cock actually is. Laugh wildly after it is unveiled – well, after they have to point out to you where it is because it is too little to see, of course. Not every guy will have a camera to display their miniscule penis but you don’t even have to see it to know it’s not there.
Have fun finding other uses for this loser because it is obvious his dick serves no purpose other than comedic value. Good thing he has a couple available holes to make use of, which leads us to…
Big Black Cock
Men who request BBC are hoping that you have a big black dildo handy.
They might want you to plunder them or their wife (and discuss it in animated detail), or to intimidate them with it. Perhaps use it to show an SPH enthusiast what a REAL cock looks like.
Make no mistake, these are usually totally heterosexual men you are dealing with who LOVE the cock when they are horny. If they were gay, they would likely be seeing a cam boy and not a cam girl, though some end up in the male section and others do both. But it is usually a woman who wields the cock in this case, whether strapped on or waved around menacingly. Whatever the case, it is always good to have a BBC kicking around as a cam girl anyway; it can be used on him every bit as much her.
BBC is a popular request in a “cuckolding fantasy”- in which a man envisions himself a slave to his wife or other female. Forced to watch her have sex with superior men and if he is lucky, allowed to “clean up after” or take part in other humiliating or sensual ways.
The best is when you get a “stud” in your chat room – a man who actually does have a big dick, that gets off on all the bitch boys who worship him and his prowess with you. I actually have “stud” regulars who wait around for the cock whores to show up so I can use them as a prop to taunt the others. Sometimes I feel as though I am playing matchmaker to studs & sissies, and that my life is quite absurd at times.
Cum Eating Instruction
Some men want you to instruct them to eat their own cum.
Many of them do not actually want to do it but get turned on by the idea of doing it. They will confess to you that they always wimp out when it comes time. You are a keeper if you can actually get him to try even just a little taste in the end.
Some guys will come to you with a shot glass or other container and hungrily imbibe every last drop. Others will ask you where and how much to ejaculate. Some will show off how they can shoot it into their mouths or distort themselves into impossible positions. They’ll put on a show (it’s the best when they are wearing lingerie & stockings as well, all sissified out). I tell most of these types that the only way I’ll allow them to be overeager pigs and jerk off to me is if they eat it all after and make a show of it in whatever way I deem suitable at the time.
To make it easier for the wimpy ones, I tell them that their dick belongs to me now, so it is not really like they are eating their own cum – because it is MINE. Many ways to get creative with this to bring them to their goal of being the cum eating whore they always dreamed they were.
Sometimes CEI follows a good session of…
Jerk Off Instruction
Guys seeking JOI want you to be meticulous with just how they jerk off and instruct them.
What pace they use and how they touch themselves, bringing them in and out of an edge. I think that they enjoy their cock being paid special attention to, like the kinky equivalent of a blow job on the internet. Some enjoy trying to imitate how you jerk off with a strap on, or having you make them to speed up or slow down in bursts. I have heard of some girls who get super measured and perform countdowns until the moment of orgasm.
Cock & Ball Torture
This is more my style than JOI, right here. It is exactly as it says –
CBT is the torture of a man’s cock and balls.
Some guys expect you to get all MacGuyver on them and present to you implements they have to use on themselves, seeking your guidance on how. “Mistress, I have 10 rubber bands, a handful of clothespins, a foot of twine, 2 thumbtacks, hot sauce, a Home & Gardens magazine from 1998, and saran wrap.”
Some guys are not so prepared and hope that you will know what to do and guide them to use items in their environment. (Office supplies, neck ties and belts are always helpful.) If you don’t feel like getting that creative, you can always make them smack themselves around a bit or flick themselves.
If you are not versed in cock and ball torture, be careful about how intricate you get with inflicting their punishment. You don’t want to injure someone permanently …right? Though many guys are very experienced with this type of thing and may even just want to show you what they can do to themselves and hope it pleases you. (I recommend checking it out, it is amazing to watch a skilled CBT masochist at work.).
Also, be sure to read over the rules if you work for a cam site, some of them disallow CBT acted out by their models and patrons. (No fun, I know…)
Clothed Female Nude Male
In stark contrast to the cum eating and cocks and humiliation…
We have the more sensual man who loves nothing more than a woman adorned in finery as he lies naked and bare.
This is an obvious metaphor which shows how in control you are and how helpless he is. It is innately D&S, a showing of female dominance. Some may require the reward of brief flashes from time to time, almost hinting at empowerment for the male in getting to witness what is underneath.
You might think these guys have it easy, getting to behold their fetish of clothed women in free chat. But most of them realize that the magic happens in paid chat- where they are granted your undivided attention. It is romantic interacting with a man who prefers this kind of play in contrast to the more blatant sexualized requests and I have come to treasure my CFNM following dearly. They are always appreciated in my chat room and considered a refreshing break.
There are so many different fetishes but not all have an acronym for easy access like these examples, and there are many I haven’t covered here. Sissification, cuckolding, taboo (usually age play or incest), blackmail, blasphemy, smoking, feet/high heels, pegging. These are but a few of the more popular requests. Types of domination get abbreviated titles like “femdom” (female domination) and “findom” (financial domination). It goes on and on and into and out of varying levels of debauchery, objectification and detachment.
Now you know what you may be dealing with in venturing into the fetish realm. Perhaps you will decide to advertise yourself as offering SPH to begin your camming adventure. Ensure yourself some laughs early on or give a resounding “NO” right off the bat to CEI requests or whatever you know you wouldn’t be into. No shame in asking the customer himself what the hell he is talking about with any acronyms or terminology not mentioned here. That is how I found out the lot of what I know as an online Dominatrix – by asking for clarification. You will find that they are usually all too happy to share.